I was watching a Korean drama with someone last week and she told me that the "nice guy" gets dumped for the not so nice guy.
This week, I watched a Japanese movie called KoiSora (Sky of Love), where the girl, went back to the guy that treated her badly (despite for ulterior motives) and leaves the guy that did her no wrong and was nice to her throughout.
Does this reflect real life that "nice guys never win" ? That got me thinking that there really isn't a show, story or manga about the people who have lost in love. Guy gets girl, they lived happily ever after. But what about that other guy who lost? Usually they get forgotten after their job as a love triangle plot device in the drama is done. They would say "I love you , and to love you I have to let you go and be happy" or some similar corny line and that would be the end of their story.
But for everyone out there who has ever got the dreaded "We're just friends" line, the story isn't so conveniently over is it? Recovery is a hard and long process. Its definately not immediate. Some would even continue to love their object of unrequitted love for years or maybe never ever really getting over it even after marriage.
That said I am inspired to write a story/drama/script or whatever for all the "losers" out there. I'm sure there are alot of people who can relate to this story and it makes for a more touching and sad story compared to the usual story about the winners at love.
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
A Birthday Card From My Past
I found some old birthday cards and various cards from my younger days while clearing out my drawer. This one was from a very special friend and looking back, I haven't done much to earn the sincere friendships of others because of my cynical worldview. I was betrayed too often that I was blinded by people who actually cared. The card reveals that 10 years ago till today, I am still afraid of opening up to people due to my fear of disappointment with people in general.
This is how the letter goes and it shocks me because a letter from 10 years ago is able to apply to my life today. Perhaps this is because I haven't moved on from 10 years before.
# I realise that I always seem to write the same stuff every year in every birthday card I write. And so i'll try to write something different this year. 'Something different'. Haha, lame joke. :) I think I should pen down some words that have been keeping my mind occupied for quite some time now. As a friend who has known you for like .... 5 years now, I think I have the right to claim that I've known you long enough to understand you and figure out the kind of person that you are.
And eventhough for the past year I haven't been too much of a good friend that has been there for you, I still consider you one of the best friends that I have ever made. Even when you don't seem like one, or seem like you don't like being one I still respect you for the years of friendship you've given me. I think in all honesty and sincerity, that you are, deep down inside, a fully mature and a good respectable man. Somehow, your views of the world have clouded your judgement on how to run your life to what you may think, is the best you can do. I never would believe that constantly wanting to live by your own can make anyone remotely happy.
I worry when the only time you'd want to talk to me is through one of your so-called online diaries. I am friends with Shuuji, a person , who has more to say , more to tell and more than just a bunch of words in a diary. I don't receive any interaction that way and I don't expect that you learn anything about me from that either.
You are a person Shuuji, believe it or not, who's got skills, talents and abilities exclusive to your own, but other than that, you're just like everybody else. Please don't shun all the people who do give a damn about what happens to you.We care about you for a reason and that is because you are special in our hearts. I have more to say but i'm running out of space. Have a happy Birthday, Shuuji! Many happy returns of the day.
p/s: I realise that the gift this time is hardly close to the gift i made you last year...so, I apologise for that. It's still a gift that I thought you might not mind having.
Your buddy, chum, pal, comprande, gal-friend, and uh, soul sista.
LKBL
17th July 2002. #
Printed on the card:
# Happiest Birthday Wishes to a Very Special Friend
Of everything you say to me, "my friend" is always best.
Of everything you give to me, your time is always best.
Of everything you share with me, your smike is always best.....
Of everything that can be "your friend" is always best.
Have a Happy Day and Year. #
Thank you L, your words still apply to me today and I hope I will still strive forward to find myself and how to fight on in this world which I have no aim for at the moment. I remembered you were studying in the US when this card was mailed to me, and in the next few years, I would get to know you got married to someone there and we lost contact eventually. I hope you're doing well there and have started a happy family. I have and will always be your friend despite all these years. :)
This is how the letter goes and it shocks me because a letter from 10 years ago is able to apply to my life today. Perhaps this is because I haven't moved on from 10 years before.
# I realise that I always seem to write the same stuff every year in every birthday card I write. And so i'll try to write something different this year. 'Something different'. Haha, lame joke. :) I think I should pen down some words that have been keeping my mind occupied for quite some time now. As a friend who has known you for like .... 5 years now, I think I have the right to claim that I've known you long enough to understand you and figure out the kind of person that you are.
And eventhough for the past year I haven't been too much of a good friend that has been there for you, I still consider you one of the best friends that I have ever made. Even when you don't seem like one, or seem like you don't like being one I still respect you for the years of friendship you've given me. I think in all honesty and sincerity, that you are, deep down inside, a fully mature and a good respectable man. Somehow, your views of the world have clouded your judgement on how to run your life to what you may think, is the best you can do. I never would believe that constantly wanting to live by your own can make anyone remotely happy.
I worry when the only time you'd want to talk to me is through one of your so-called online diaries. I am friends with Shuuji, a person , who has more to say , more to tell and more than just a bunch of words in a diary. I don't receive any interaction that way and I don't expect that you learn anything about me from that either.
You are a person Shuuji, believe it or not, who's got skills, talents and abilities exclusive to your own, but other than that, you're just like everybody else. Please don't shun all the people who do give a damn about what happens to you.We care about you for a reason and that is because you are special in our hearts. I have more to say but i'm running out of space. Have a happy Birthday, Shuuji! Many happy returns of the day.
p/s: I realise that the gift this time is hardly close to the gift i made you last year...so, I apologise for that. It's still a gift that I thought you might not mind having.
Your buddy, chum, pal, comprande, gal-friend, and uh, soul sista.
LKBL
17th July 2002. #
Printed on the card:
# Happiest Birthday Wishes to a Very Special Friend
Of everything you say to me, "my friend" is always best.
Of everything you give to me, your time is always best.
Of everything you share with me, your smike is always best.....
Of everything that can be "your friend" is always best.
Have a Happy Day and Year. #
Thank you L, your words still apply to me today and I hope I will still strive forward to find myself and how to fight on in this world which I have no aim for at the moment. I remembered you were studying in the US when this card was mailed to me, and in the next few years, I would get to know you got married to someone there and we lost contact eventually. I hope you're doing well there and have started a happy family. I have and will always be your friend despite all these years. :)
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